I’ve lost some friends whether it be recently, or in the past, because of my drive to consistently be right. I know I don’t always need to be right, and even when I think I’m right does not mean I have to interject my opinion into the conversation. I’ve learned that being right all the time does not make you better than those around you, and if you think it does than I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for you because I used to be like that to. If I knew I was right I had to prove it, even when there was no need to. Most of the time when you correct someone you just annoy them and make them not want to be around you. There is nothing worse than having a conversation with someone and they or someone else just has to correct you on a particular fact or event. Usually when we correct people it does not radically alter the conversation, or even enhance it.
What is with this obsession anyways? When you correct someone even if it makes you feel better, putting down someone else should never be a reason to make yourself feed good. I’ve had friends in conversation with me correct me aggressively (as it always comes off) to then apologize for it. I find this bizarre, because the only reason they apologize is because they feel like they’ve upset the other person. The apology is not usually because they genuinely feel bad, but it’s used as a way to make themselves feel better about the situation. Again, what was the point in having to be right if you end up apologizing anyways?
Then there are situations where I’ve had friends correct me to impress other people in the room. I think this may be the ultimate friend killer. Nothing is worse than in the middle of a conversation having someone correct you on your story in front of people. Was that absolutely necessary? Heck no. Now everyone in the room may feel uncomfortable telling their stories in fear that their stories will be corrected. Seriously, was it really worth it?
Above all, I think correcting people constantly shows that you aren’t really listening to the conversation. It just shows that you’re waiting for a place to jump in and speak, and not really listening to the words the other person is saying. Nobody likes someone who cannot listen, and must compulsively always speak during a conversation. Sometimes you just need to sit back and listen to someone. By doing this you gain so much perspective on that person and their situation, instead of trying to figure out if a fact they used is correct or not.
Conversation shouldn’t be about one upping someone. It shouldn’t be about interjecting your voice when it wasn’t invited in or necessary. Conversation should be a dialogue of words exchanged, but most importantly the other person should feel heard. Being right all the time doesn’t lead to healthy or successful relationships with other people; it just makes people want to stop talking to you.
All anyone ever wants is to be heard. Everyone wants to feel like their voice matters, and by constantly correcting people you’re just diminishing that person’s voice. Maybe on some things (like directions) you can correct someone, but for the most part it’s honestly just not worth it at all.
If anything, you don’t have to be right all the time, but you do just need to be there to listen. Life isn’t all about being right. It isn’t about always feeling like you have or know all the answers. The truth is you don’t have all the answers because nobody has all the answers, so stop acting like you know everything. Instead of choosing to be right, just choose to be happy.
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